So here I am again, writing for my blog. For my last blog I wrote about a characteristic I have, which was sticking up for myself. And today I am going to write about another characteristic I have, which is...
-Escaping the Negative-
Escaping the Negative is not really a trait I have, but it is more a "thing" I like to do. Escaping the negative means, saying goodbye to the people/things that hurt you, or cause negativity in your life. I do not mean, if your friend is being mean one day to end the friendship, because I understand everyone has bad days, including myself. Though, if you notice a pattern with one of your fiends like: they're being more negative than positive, or everything is always about them. Then it would be time to end the friendship, and escape the negative.
I have started to notice that since the beginning of high school I have had to end a few of my friendships, because of the negativity. And currently I am in the middle of putting an end to a friendship. It is really upsetting, but I know it is the best thing for me, because I have finally come to the understanding that you should not surround yourself with bad friendships.
Throughout this year, I have had to ask myself, what am I doing? If you keep doing this, then you're not going to have any friends? And it's true, if someone has a friendship that is unpredictable, or extremely unhealthy, and they come to their senses that the friendship is extremely negative, and they eventually end the relationship. Then they will have to suffer the consequences of feeling like they have no friends. But this is actually very untrue. I think once you escape the negative friendships, you will start to eventually feel like you have more friends.
The reason I think that once you end an unhealthy friendship you start to feel like you have more friends, is because, the friends you have are ACTUALLY good friends. And by escaping negativity, you're just creating room for positivity in your life. And going from, more negativity than positivity, to more positivity than negativity, is truly a great feeling.
I understand that it is extremely hard to stop being friends with someone, that you thought was going to be one of your best friends for ever. But something we have to understand is, having a small number of loving/positive friends is way better than having a large number of negative/fake friends.